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Dear Young Parents:
Because of my own experiences, I would encourage to try hard to avoid spanking your children.
My own experiences with spanking I believe are responsible for a sexual fetish that I wish I did not have. It is important for everyone to realize that young children develop sexuality at an earlier age than we probably realize. The butt is very close to genitals. Force or pressure directed to one area is generally felt in the other. Without meaning to do so, I believe many well-meaning parents accidentally cause or promote such a fetish.
My parents did nothing that even today I believe would be classified as abuse. They were well-meaning and the discipline I got was probably less than they received as children. However, between ages 4 and 12, I was spanked maybe one to two dozen times. It was not often and my parents preferred other methods of discipline. They did use spanking though when they felt behavior called for it.
Perhaps, the ritual involved in my punishment accounted for what happened. I don't know. I will say that when I was spanked for some wrongdoing it was usually done in a specific way. I would be called to the living room and my father and mother would talk to me and my two siblings (brother and sister) about what I had done wrong. My father would than explain the consequences which would include getting a spanking. My pants were usually pulled down. Although, I was never spanked on my bare butt. Instead, I was spanked in my underwear. My father would make me bend over his knee and would spank me until I cried. Sometimes it was with his hand. I remember a couple of spankings with a very thin paddle. I don't think even today anyone looking at the paddle would have called what he did abuse. However, the whole experience was very shaming. To this day, I remember my mother sitting there with a look of satisfaction on her face while I got spanked in my jockey shorts. Also, having my brother and sister there to watch this was hugely embarrassing for me.
Please don't do this to your children. Find other ways to discipline them.
-A concerned parent.
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