tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post4423412062730362438..comments2024-01-07T16:05:33.403-06:00Comments on Who I Am Without You: Still Crying: Childhood MemoriesSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01007257169361470843noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-2167087427852390752019-06-28T20:43:13.167-05:002019-06-28T20:43:13.167-05:00Spanking is hitting. End of discussion.Spanking is hitting. End of discussion.Lady Silverwyndehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664507499811992860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-62031760240701580332017-10-19T16:38:21.109-05:002017-10-19T16:38:21.109-05:00Wow, I'm a few years late and got directed to ...Wow, I'm a few years late and got directed to this from the "biblical Parenting" blog. this is the first time I've seen someone else voice the same feelings I have about the very word "spanking." Even hearing the word causes me extreme feelings of embarrassment shame and discomfort. I find myself squirming and trying to control my facial expressions and body language. I've never quire understood why my responses to the mere word are so visceral. <br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-75905826137299534792016-11-15T21:18:09.153-06:002016-11-15T21:18:09.153-06:00Oh my. Yes... thank uouOh my. Yes... thank uouAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-89254913390295290362015-08-26T19:20:59.962-05:002015-08-26T19:20:59.962-05:00Oh god. I am so sorry. I get it.Oh god. I am so sorry. I get it.Victorianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-60155746194436696072014-09-12T14:45:16.221-05:002014-09-12T14:45:16.221-05:00I sniffled through this story, but I broke down an...I sniffled through this story, but I broke down and sobbed at the "thank you". It was just too much like my own childhood. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07407819265057190834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-53162924308698499622014-07-03T17:24:07.386-05:002014-07-03T17:24:07.386-05:00I'm a couple years late to this thread, I see ...I'm a couple years late to this thread, I see (just discovered this post linked from an article in another blog I was reading), but in addition to saying how much my heart breaks for the author of this article as a child (as well as for myself as a child), I want to say a resounding YES to these comments here. No one has a right to hit a child - I once saw an interview with Michael Pearl where he said he doesn't use the word "hitting" when it comes to physical punishment, because he thinks it's somehow different. Well, I personally avoid using the "s-word", mainly because just speaking it brings up the feelings of humiliation, degradation, and terror, but also because it is BULLS**T to pretend like giving "hitting" a different name suddenly means it is not abuse. And I am thoroughly convinced that this kind of punishment is not only physically, psychologically, and emotionally abusive, but outright sexually abusive as well. Like movingon says, it is hitting a child on a private part. It is violating the body in an area that, when the child is older (and hopefully not before), will become associated with sexual interaction. I am always kind of dumbfounded that these things aren't talked about more, and aren't obvious to anyone who takes a moment to think it through. But I am interested in the comment from another "Anonymous" below about all the intimacy and sexual issues that have lingered - I can absolutely relate. So WHY do most people not seem to recognize this, and why do we allow this kind of horrifying, sexually-charged and sexually-devastating abuse to continue happening to our smallest, most innocent, most vulnerable citizens?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-89431026996399686302013-11-28T19:25:39.182-06:002013-11-28T19:25:39.182-06:00I still struggle with physical intimacy. I either...I still struggle with physical intimacy. I either have no boundaries and sleep with partners immediately-thinking if I let them use or abuse me at least its my choice. I was in a 10 year physically and emotionally abusive relationship and I truly believe the reason I so willingly put up with it for so long was because of the terrible relationship with my mother. I too became good at lying and manipulating. ive also noticed now that I have crossed that line into real love and trust with my partner I struggle to have sex with him. I dont want to do something that I associate with spanking and abuse. I hate being naked, I hate being touched. it makes my stomach hurt at times. <br />Another issue I have always faced is sleep difficulties. my mom always warned me when I went to bed I would receive my spanking for what Idid wrong that day. I would beg and plead-so sick with fear I couldnt eat all day. it has made me associate any evening rituals with spanking and fear. I also experienced sexual arousal at the thought of this in my teen and adult life. followed by immediate disgust. <br />unfortunately I dont know how to move past this. I try to block out yge memories but then they haunt me as nightmares. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-52872654687768101602013-10-22T22:13:30.975-05:002013-10-22T22:13:30.975-05:00I wish I could thumbs up this reply.I wish I could thumbs up this reply.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-3740726827297150772013-09-05T22:55:33.297-05:002013-09-05T22:55:33.297-05:00Spanking is hitting a child on a private part. All...Spanking is hitting a child on a private part. All hitting is wrong. My little girl is 6 and if anyone ever tried to touch her on her buttocks there would be hell to pay.movingonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14284690394178089724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-70849045727839126402013-09-05T22:43:24.533-05:002013-09-05T22:43:24.533-05:00Spanking is hitting. Hitting is abuse. I wish I co...Spanking is hitting. Hitting is abuse. I wish I could take that little girl in my arms, run away with her, hug her and protect her forever. But no one did. No one was there. All of us failed. I am sorry.movingonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14284690394178089724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-55427274712660545862013-04-02T09:30:21.969-05:002013-04-02T09:30:21.969-05:00http://her.joshandrosemary.com/blog/why-weve-chose...http://her.joshandrosemary.com/blog/why-weve-chosen-not-to-spank/ Well I'm more determined than ever- Sarahjoy329https://www.blogger.com/profile/16845907851747820173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-75015573599007117212013-04-01T19:27:22.552-05:002013-04-01T19:27:22.552-05:00This story makes me sick. I hope and pray that yo...This story makes me sick. I hope and pray that you will find peace. I wish I could just grab and run away with you. How can any parent do something like this?Kathleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-28637160682976811632012-11-03T02:50:10.881-05:002012-11-03T02:50:10.881-05:00this is giving me flash backs. I don't know if...this is giving me flash backs. I don't know if that's good or bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-41976158198879158192012-09-30T02:24:09.924-05:002012-09-30T02:24:09.924-05:00Dear God...
I went to hug my son and tell him how...Dear God...<br /><br />I went to hug my son and tell him how much I love him.<br /><br />Philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06571263543865506401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-82576305291465330652012-09-26T18:18:11.770-05:002012-09-26T18:18:11.770-05:00This way of raising a child is dangerous for so ma...This way of raising a child is dangerous for so many reasons. It is even dangerous for the parents, because one day they may pull out the paddle or whatever and find a knife stuck in their belly before they have time to react. Or a pair of steely hands wrappεd around their neck.<br /><br />Obviously, for a child to be able to do that calmly and automatically, they must intensively condition into themselves a mentality that even a black belt in karate would find scary to deal with. But once it's done, God help anyone who so much as raises their voice at them. Even decades later as an adult.<br /><br />The experience of holding another person's life in one's hands, the knowledge that it could happen again without one's conscious choice, is even scarier than being abused. And in the absence of a way to undo that training, the only responsible thing to do is live alone. Remain single and absolutely never have children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-11196399890780017142012-09-18T04:38:10.339-05:002012-09-18T04:38:10.339-05:00It's not spanking, it's HITTING. No-one sh...It's not spanking, it's HITTING. No-one should hit a child.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09967972437986569073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-68430192587854042522012-06-28T10:02:06.358-05:002012-06-28T10:02:06.358-05:00That's insane. I don't see how it could be...That's insane. I don't see how it could be seen as anything other than torture.Philip T. Watershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02051505149731075532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-25001792498858093332012-06-26T10:05:52.993-05:002012-06-26T10:05:52.993-05:00Wow. I am not even sure what to say, but my heart ...Wow. I am not even sure what to say, but my heart broke a little in reading this encounter. {{hugs}}Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13783085707283000645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819060966829014139.post-23637078276217217602012-06-25T20:38:34.695-05:002012-06-25T20:38:34.695-05:00Sarah..
speechless.
I am simply speechless.
Bra...Sarah..<br /><br />speechless.<br /><br />I am simply speechless.<br /><br />Braveheart for sharing your story. Thankyou for reposting.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17046924507335607146noreply@blogger.com